You've been together since your teens, you know one another inside out, but you can tell something isn't right with them. They seem disinterested with life, not paying you as much attention, depressed or generally irritated. This could point to signs of a midlife crisis. From the mid 30's onwards, depending on many factors including personality, ego, childhood and so on, it is possible that your partner could be heading towards a midlife crisis.
So how do we tell? Are there any signs we can be looking for that can prepare us and help us? Well, here are five of the biggest tell tale signs.
1. Life is boring. Has your partner expressed this verbally or by their actions? Are they seeking more stimulating things or activities? Even things they used to do as teenagers, that would normally be too old for them to do now?
2. Are they disinterested in you, but perhaps flirting with other people? Are they spending a lot of time online, perhaps on Facebook or other social type sites?
3. Are they seeking to buy flashy things, sports cars, clothes to make them look younger? I remember going to a financial advisor's office for some investment advice, when he came out to greet me, he was around 45, but had a hairstyle of an 18 year old surfer, was wearing a shirt and tie and a pair of those Bermuda shorts. I know you shouldn't judge on appearances, but I couldn't bring myself to take his advice.
4. Are they doing things out of character and seemingly strange things? For example, my wife when she hit 40, wanted to change her name and have a metaphoric funeral for her old self, as the birth of her "new" self came through.
5. Reminiscing and thinking about the past is another big tell tale sign of a midlife crisis.
Of course, any one of these things alone do not necessarily mean they are in crisis or approaching crisis, but they can be used as an indication that things perhaps aren't alright with them. Forewarned is forearmed as they say, so it is useful to be able to be aware and look closely at what is happening or happened to your partner.